I recently took a fast from social media for a month or two and it was so refreshing. I couldn’t help but notice how much more secure I felt as a parent and how much less I compared myself to others. Sometimes it’s hard scrolling through a feed and seeing a snapshot of another mother’s “bad day” and it still looks styled for the camera. I don’t think they would want to see what my bad day looks like! Posts like this can definitely make other moms feel “less than” whether that was the intention of the person posting the photo or not.
I want this blog to be a place of encouragement and never a place where someone might walk away feeling judged or less than. I think if we are aware of ourselves and our parenting, there’s probably a good chance we are doing a pretty great job and definitely the best we can – whether we make home cooked meals or get carry out…whether we formula feed or breastfeed….whether we vaccinate or not. The list could go on and on. The most important thing, in my mind, is that we are authentic – that we don’t try pretending that we have our act together if we don’t (and honestly, who does?). I know I don’t have mine together – I am challenged and frustrated in a new way every single day on this journey of motherhood.
One thing I am trying to work on is not constantly looking at my phone, iPad, etc. throughout the day. I have been reading a great book, Hands Free Mama, that is helping me break this habit. Right now I am setting my phone aside on silent for set increments of my day so that I’m not distracted from my children. But the other day when practicing this, I came downstairs with the kids and saw 5 missed calls and 4 text messages from my frantic husband who needed me to find something in the house for a coworker to swing by and pick up. So I’m not entirely sure how it will work and I’m trying to figure out this balance! I am definitely a work in progress. A girlfriend recently sent me this video on social media and the harm it has done to society. If you find that you’re distracted by your phone, it is a must-see!!