What holds us together


My daughter has been asking for probably a year now to see the place where Daddy and Mommy got married. It’s only a short drive away, so I’m not sure what took me so long to grant her request. But on a random Wednesday, I decided today was the day and we were going to make an adventure out of it.

We spent the morning exploring as both kids asked questions about what the day was like. It brought back such emotional memories. I walked them through where my dad and I were parked and what path we took as we walked up to the park. I showed them where Daddy and I prayed with the pastor, and what statues their older brother (now my stepson) had climbed on while he waited for the ceremony to begin.


I hadn’t been there since that sunny, gorgeous day six years ago. I can’t believe how quickly time has passed yet how much life we’ve lived since that day we said “I do.” We’ve added two kids to our family and have gone through many highs and lows together. I had no idea all that was ahead of us. How we would come to see some of the ugliest and raw parts of ourselves and each other through sleepless nights, unexpected c-sections, toddler tantrums, and child hospitalizations. Life with kids has proven to be anything but easy.

While these have been some of the most trying years of my life, they are also, hands down, the best I’ve lived.

I didn’t know it was possible to marry together joy, chaos, vulnerability, wisdom, light, loneliness, and love into one complex, messy, beautiful relationship. What holds us together is not only the vows we exchanged that day, but the incredible journey we have been on.

Yes – with each passing year comes more challenge, more unforeseen circumstances, but also a greater authenticity and a deeper understanding of the other person.

We have built each other up. We have loved with all that we have. And we’ve supported each other relentlessly. When stressors come crashing down, we push through, knowing we have gotten through other times such as these.

Seeing our little ones walk in the place where it all began reminded me just how far we’ve come.


One thing is sure: our path will never be perfect. But we’ve learned the importance of navigating as a team, even on the bumpiest of roads. And that’s what holds us together.

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